Thursday, April 18, 2013

The Key Life Lesson I've Learned So Far

In My Box by Joe Lewis
When my world is about me, it's small, confining and uncomfortable. I can feel lonely, rejected and be absolutely convinced I don't belong. I take things personally, grabbing affront from someone else's bad behavior, when there is the least suggestion I'm less than I'd like to be thought of.

I'm not available to you. You are simply there as a mirror for what I'm thinking.  I see you through the filter of my opinions, judgments and attitude. That's pretty much all you see of me as well. My heart is well-hidden. When you're around me you won't feel nourished.

There's an inherent sadness in me when I'm in my box. Nothing superficial can shake that off. My smile is only skin-thick.

Chickadee by xstarttodayx
When my context is more grounded in reality, when I'm out of my box, there's you, me and all of us at some level in my awareness. My heart is light and you know you are welcome in my life at this moment.  When you're with me you'll come away feeling nourished. Your heart will be lighter. Your day will be brighter. We will have connected, each of us knowing we're okay in our imperfections. As we gain skill we become able to give and receive comment and observation without anything being taken personally. Even the pointing finger from someone having a bad day cannot shake me out of this larger context. I've had bad days myself and I'm deeply grateful that you, and others, haven't held those against me. So why not cut some slack for this other one? We both belong. I can see it and this one can't. And because I can see it, I don't react. I can respond. I'm learning. I'm alive.

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Books, Movies, Audios, Websites and Other Good Stuff

  • The Real Wealth of Nations by Riane Eisler - fastcinating insights into how to get economics back on track. Read it. Share it.
  • RAven's End by Ben Gadd - for adults and children - a fantasy set in the Canadian Rockies full of lore of the mountains and what lives there.
  • The Third Ear - On Listening to the World by Joachim-Ernst Berendt - giving us back listening and its power to reconnect us to the world.
  • As It Is In Heaven - Movie from Sweden, 2004 - perhaps the greatest movie of the human spirit that I have ever seen. So true to real life and so prophetic. It came to my attention as I've been re-discovering my own improvisational voice - the kind we all have whether we "can sing" or not. So rich and so healing.
  • Theory U by Otto Scharmer - An advanced handbook of public and group conversation that comes from a very deep place. It is refreshing in its authenticity and profound in its import: Leading from the Future as It Emerges.
  • His Dark Materials - The Golden Compass, The Subtle Knife, The Amber Spyglass by Philip Pullman, Oxford professor - epic fantasy of two pre-adolescent children as they explore parallel universes and engage goodness and what we call evil. Available in audio also. This makes great reading for all ages and is far deeper and more satisfying than Harry Potter. See
  • Lives of Others - movie - beautifully crafted story of being alive in a climate of fear and how even the most hardened can be touched by love of life.
  • Parrots of Telegraph Hill - documentary movie and subtle love story about a street guy, the parrots he cared for, and more
  • The Danish Poet - a short movie (great animation) on where we come from
  • The Biology of Belief - Bruce Lipton Ph.D. - Exposing false but deeply held assumptions about the nature of reality - cellular, animal and human - Lipton reveals how deeply embedded in our world view and the way we live is the belief in Newtonian physics and what has become known as Darwinism. He shows parallels between life at the cellular level and at all other levels and how much we can rejoice in our prospects, once we embrace the wisdom of our cells. Available in 3.5 hour audio and 8+ hour audio at Anyone want to form a book club on this one?
  • The Upside of Down - Thomas Homer-Dixon - How we can prepare to bring about constructive change when the destructive forces around us create an opening